RIP Dr. George Richard Tiller
August 8, 1941 – May 31, 2009
before ya’ll go talking about “misandry,” lemme explain you a thing
Also, for further information, Manboobz is an excellent resource. Go there. It’s awesome.
|Not feminism:||Oh my God, that woman is wearing make-up and high heels! She can't be a feminist. She's just adhering to the patriarchal expectations of femininity! What a traitor to her gender.|
|Not feminism:||I hate men! Women are so much better than men! All men are rapists and we don't need their help! Men are just there to oppress us and keep us down! Women are the superior gender.|
|Not feminism:||You're giving up your career to have a baby? You're being dictated to by a man! That's the wrong choice! You've slept with twenty men? Wow, way to show that you have no respect for yourself.|
|Feminism:||Women and men are equal. No-one should be discriminated against on the basis of their gender. Women have the right to decide how to live their life, how to dress, what to do with their body and who to love.|
|What you say:||Misandry is just as bad as misogyny!|
|What you mean:||I lack the critical thinking skills to differentiate between an oppressive system that's been upheld for centuries and a comically exaggerated response to oppression on a blogging website.|
I need feminism because every financial institution I have ever dealt with as a married woman has defaulted to putting my husband’s name first on everything. He’s always the “Borrower,” I’m always the “Co-borrower,” despite the fact that these companies never deal with him. They only ever deal with me, because I handle all of our finances and personal business decisions.
That we’re ordered as a result of gender is endlessly frustrating, because many of these accounts then don’t consider me “authorized” to make alterations to the account. I have to get them on the phone while my husband is present, get him to tell them it’s okay, and then he hands the phone back to me so I can conduct my business. Because he has no fucking idea. He’s not a money or numbers person. He’s not the breadwinner. We have pooled our finances because it’s easier (and smarter) for me to take care of it all, but this inane industry standard that the male name goes first and the female name goes second means I have to jump through that many more hoops to take care of my family.